Dating After 50
The prospect of dating after 50 can be a daunting one for women over 50 who have been away from the dating scene for many years. So much has changed, and of course, dating at 50 would never be the same as dating as teenagers or young adults anyway.
Annie Gleason specializes in dating coaching for midlife singles. Annie also writes a column for the San Francisco Examiner, and her advice is always compassionate and wise. Here are some of Annie’s thoughts on meeting men through online dating sites:
Do not get emotionally invested in one man until you've been on a few dates. Keep emailing and communicating with other potential dates until you are in a committed relationship.
If you are experiencing men who just want to email more than 2-3 round-trip exchanges via the online site's email server, flirtatiously suggest that you move to his regular email. A good way to do this is to tell him that you'd like to send him a photo, but that you can't send attachments on the site.
If after a couple of email exchanges on his personal email, he doesn't ask for your number, tell him that you're enjoying getting to know him, and that you're looking forward to hearing the sound of his voice.
If after a couple of phone calls, he doesn't ask you out, let it go.
Some men, especially those over 50, get overwhelmed by shyness and fear of rejection. Being flirtatious and encouraging gives them the courage to move forward.
Some men are incapable of a real relationship for various reasons - not ready, married, etc. and live in fantasy email relationships with women. By flirtatiously encouraging the forward momentum, you can tell who these people are by their action or inaction. No matter what, when you get rejected online, remember that you have no idea what his baggage or reasons are. It has nothing to do with you - it's him. Say "Next!" and move forward.
Annie offers individual dating coaching, workshops and seminars, and tele-seminars at very reasonable prices. For example, her 4-part tele-seminar,
Keys to Successful Online Dating, is only $79 in advance. Annie’s website also has an advice column, articles, and other good information. Visit her at
http://www.getalovelife.net/